Jillian of 'The Bachelor': "I love him but I'm not in love with him"
I won't lie. Jillian Harris, the spunky restaurant designer from Vancouver, British Columbia, is the best thing that has ever happened to The Bachelor franchise. In a sea of insecure and shallow bimbettes, Jillian is sincere, goofy, un-self-conscious, smart and beautiful. A veritable breath of fresh air.

Jillian participated in a conference call with members of the press today, and during it, I found her just as sincere and honest as she has been portrayed all along in this season of The Bachelor.

The first thing I asked her was, now that she has the benefit of some hindsight, does she still believe that she fell in love with Jason Mesnick? She said that she still loves him, but she's not in love with him anymore. It's a cliché, yes, but it does make sense. She explained that when one is rejected, one begins to find the reasons why that rejection occurred. She said that Jason possessed the most qualities that she looks for in a partner than any other man she has dated, but in the end, he is not perfect for her.

She stands by her assertion that the one you marry should be your best friend, and if Jason doesn't agree with that, then they probably weren't meant to be together anyway. This is not to say that she discounts the importance of having a romantic spark.

One thing that Jason said that really made me angry was that he wasn't sure whether Jillian's independence and personal strength were compatible with him. He expressed that wanted someone who would be able to lean on him more. Jillian's response to this was one of surprise.

“It threw me back a little bit,” she said. She always thought that her independence was what was most attractive about herself. I hope she keeps thinking this way, and that she won't let her experience with Jason negatively color any future relationships she has.

Maybe one of the most memorable Jillian moments that we'll take away from this season of The Bachelor is the steamy hot tub scene in this last episode, filmed in New Zealand.

“Apparently, my dad just stared and the TV with his jaw open,” Jillian laughed. “When I watched it, I just had a good laugh. When you get to that point in your relationship, that is what you would be doing. I still don't have any regrets. It happened, and it was kind of funny to watch.”

-Debbie Chang, BuddyTV Staff Writer
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