So we're halfway through the hiatus, Grey's Anatomy
fans, with two weeks down and two more to go. In the meantime, I'd like to reflect upon the last episode, "Sympathy for the Parents", in which many of the major characters dealt with what I shall call Baby Drama.
Despite GA being a show populated by characters in their late twenties, thirties, and early forties (when people in the real world are dealing a lot with the issue of babies) the doctors at Seattle Grace Mercy West Hospital are pretty much removed from the parenting scene at present with the exception of Miranda Bailey. Is that about to change and, if so, for whom? Show-runner Shonda Rhimes has often commented that they don't "do" babies at GA. This is, after all, a show about surgeons. But can our crew stay child-free forever?
Callie and Arizona
Rumors are swirling all over the internet that a well-loved Grey's Anatomy couple will soon be breaking up over an important issue they can not get past. My gut instinct is that this storyline is likely about Callie and Arizona. Callie wants to have a child. Arizona does not. Some issues have shades of grey but there may not be much wiggle-room here. Deciding whether or not to become a parent is one of the biggest decisions we make in life and it can be a "deal breaker" in relationships. I'll be interested to see where this goes because unless one of these women has a change of heart (which seems unlikely) they could very well break up over this. There's no middle ground. It's not a question of how many children to have or when to have them. It "yes" or "no" and, at least for now, both parties seem pretty set on their answer to this question.
Incidentally, I found Miranda's advice to Callie to be really solid. If having a child is something you want to do, you can't wait for the "perfect" time because that time will never come. My mom would say that's like trying to drive to Chicago and expecting all of the traffic lights to be green. You just have to go for it. How much does Callie want this? I have a feeling we may be about to find out.
Meredith and Derek
After years of dancing around the issue, Derek finally brought up the idea of a McBaby to Meredith. To my surprise, by the end of the episode, Meredith was more receptive than I might have thought. Given Meredith's unbelievably difficult childhood (and terrible relationship with both of her parents), it's pretty understandable that being a mother herself might seem like a very bad idea. Interestingly, Alex (and I am loving the Alex/Meredith friendship lately) is the one to assure Meredith that she is not like her own mother and that he thinks she would make a good mother. I was left with the impression that while Meredith isn't ready right now, she's actually open to the idea down the road. This seems like a reasonable compromise to me as Meredith is still just a third-year resident. She has a lot of professional responsibilities right now, so she's basically telling Derek "not now" and he's ok with that. In the meantime, they're going to "practice".
Cristina and Owen
Although Owen's PTSD was the focus for them in this episode, it was interesting to me that their characters indirectly weighed in on Baby Drama as well. In the kitchen scene, Owen remarks on Cristina's comment from earlier in the day: "So, you said you don't want kids ..." While it's true that Cristina did say that (in the group OR scene) it's telling to me that she seems puzzled when he brings it up, like she hardly even remembers making the remark. Yet it's clear that Owen's been thinking about it all day.
Now there are a lot of variables here. Cristina may, indeed, not want children, but I think it's equally possible that she might make an exception when she sees how important it is to Owen. Cristina's relationship with her own mother is pretty awful, she's very focused on her career, and then there's the whole ectopic pregnancy/miscarriage/lost fallopian tube fiasco from her past. As an aside, I'm almost certain that Owen doesn't know about this because if he did, he'd have approached the subject very different with her. Regardless, I could see Cristina agreeing to have one child, perhaps, once she gets her career going. Like Meredith it might very well be a case of "not now" rather than "not ever". I also think that she'd make a great mother. Even women who aren't naturally drawn to children (and Cristina definitely is not) often feel differently when the child is their own. Plus, I'd have to think that Cristina would approach parenthood with the same drive she does everything else. If she did decide to be a mom, she'd try to be the best one she could be, despite her self-doubt and Owen would be a great father. So I think the jury is out for this couple, too. There are no clear-cut answers at this point.
I need to wrap this up, so I'll have to save Mark Sloan for another column (lest you think I forgot him, I did not) but I'll leave you with a final thought. Is it realistic that Miranda is the only parent on the show six seasons in and what would you like to see happen in regards to Baby Drama as we head towards season seven? Share your thoughts in the comments and the poll.
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