When People magazines hit newsstands on Friday, the main headline will read “Why I Left Him.” But these quotes from the corresponding interview with former Bachelorette Ali Fedotowsky, who recently ended her relationship with Roberto Martinez after 18 months engaged, make it sound like the breakup was (at least partially) mutual.

“I wouldn’t be being truthful if I said this came out of nowhere,” Fedotowsky told People (which also made sure to mention that Ali was “tearful” as she said all this).

“We definitely had been having problems. But I had always believed that we could work it out.”

While Fedotowsky and Martinez “did make an effort to stay together,” their arguments continued until finally, Ali said, “We both realized we were unhappy more than we were happy. And we both deserved more.”

These quotes come from a teaser article on People.com, which promises that the magazine edition will contain more details about “what went wrong, including the couple’s explosive arguments and emotional final night together.” But judging from these quotes, it seems that this was a pretty normal breakup — that, once they were finally off camera, Ali and Roberto went through what so many couples do: they discovered they weren’t as perfect for each other as they initially thought.

This morning, Ali finally acknowledged the breakup on her Twitter account, telling her fans:

“Wanted 2 let u guys know that yes, R & I split up. Im taking this time 2 heal surrounded by friends & fam. Thank u for all ur love & support”

Of course, for many people, Ali and Roberto’s breakup only serves as further evidence (like we needed any more) that the Bachelor “process” of finding love is a failure and a farce.

But, and this should serve as comfort for them and their Bachelor fans, Ali and Roberto got a lot further than most couples who come out of the series do. They actually got to know each other before they broke it off.

(Image courtesy of People)

Meghan Carlson

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