'The Bachelorette's' Jef Holm Polygamy Scandal: True or False, Who Cares?
Thursday, October 04, 2012
In Touch magazine reported this week that Jef Holm, Emily Maynard's fiance and the winner of this season of The Bachelorette, has polygamy in his family tree. The story says Holm, a Mormon who managed to keep his religion out of the series and whose parents did not appear on Jef's hometown date, has an uncle convicted of bigamy in 2003 and a grandfather with 11 wives who helped found the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. The FLDS is reportedly a sect of the religion that still practices polygamy, despite the fact that the Church of Latter-Day Saints banned multiple wives in 1890.
The story goes on to say that while Holm's immediate family does not practice polygamy, his father Monte apparently has 63 brothers and sisters - 15 full siblings and 48 half siblings. Monte decided to abandon the practice of his father, Carl Holm, according to the report. But while disavowing polygamy usually means being shunned by this sect of Mormonism, the Holm family has managed to stay close and in contact with the divided sides of the family. There's apparently a higher level of respect associated with the family because Carl helped found the sect.
Holm slammed the story via his Twitter account. "Now they're going after my family? My family DOES NOT, has HAS NEVER had any affiliation with polygamy. Ever," he tweeted.
If untrue, Holm has a legitimate gripe. But even if the allegations are true, who cares? The government outlawed polygamy in the 1800s, and if there are cases of it still in existence in this country, isn't it the law enforcement's job to police it and make arrests? Even if people are doing it in secret, it's still something that fits their beliefs and something they willingly enter into. I know everyone loves a scandal, especially regarding reality TV stars, but c'mon. Emily Maynard is such a Bible Belt Christian that if she's okay with his family, we probably should be too.
I think Jef went a bit too far in saying people are going after his family. You can't go on a reality show like The Bachelorette and not expect any skeletons in the closet to show up in the tabloids no matter how much you try and avoid it. It's just the nature of the beast these days. And clearly there is a lot of confusion regarding the beliefs of Mormons (which is why we haven't heard much about it in the presidential election and why "Book of Mormon" is booked on Broadway through the rest of the year).
I mean seriously, if finding out that Jef might have polygamy in his ancestry affects your life at all, maybe you should look back in your own family history and see what you find. In the history of the world, more societies have been occasionally polygamous than have been monogamous. I'm certainly not condoning anything, but between slavery and other atrocities against humanity, there are definitely more important things to concern yourself with.
What do you think? Do you care if Jef has distant polygamous relatives?
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