While many are still fuming over
finale, where self-made entrepreneur Brad Womack
opted not to propose to either DeAnna Pappas
or Jenni Croft
, one person who has gone through a similar situation has come to Womack's defense.
“No one seems to be concerned about Brad's future -- except, maybe, the women he didn't choose,” Jen Schefft, the 2005 Bachelorette
who turned down both of her final suitors, wrote on The Huffington Post
. “On the ["After the Final Rose"] show, they were still complaining that he didn't give them a chance, that they could have been happy together, and that his actions were unfair. What would have been more unfair is if Brad wasn't honest with himself - or them - and continued a relationship [let alone proposed] when he felt it wasn't right.”
Schefft also gives “Brad a lot of credit for not playing into the fantasy the show creates,” and pointed out that “it's entirely possible to meet 25 beautiful women (or 25 handsome men) and not fall in love with any of them... in a matter of six weeks... in isolation... with cameras all around.”
That all said, Schefft did express concern over what she feels is a lack of fallout from what transpired in The Bachelor
finale. She claims that the public is less critical of men who come from failed relationships, and more quick to point out the mistakes of women.
“Brad faced some criticism from the female participants and [The Bachelor
] host Chris Harrison [during “After the Final Rose”], but I haven't seen much denouncing him as a jerk… or proclaiming he made the biggest mistake of his life and that he'd be single forever,” she wrote. “When it comes to relationships and breakups, society treats women and men very differently.”
Schefft compared herself to Brad Womack, saying that when she decided to remain single at the end of The Bachelorette
, she found herself in the center of a lot of negative press.
“I can bet [Brad Womack] won't be walking around with a stigma of being ‘too hard to please.' That's what people think when a woman chooses not to be with a ‘perfect' guy -- as if good looks and money are all she needs,” Schefft wrote. “For some reason, it's more acceptable for a man to turn down a woman than it is for a woman to reject a man.”
Schefft clarified, however, that her reasons for bringing up the double standard is not to put the spotlights on her unpleasant experience, but to let people know that “it's better to be single than [be] in an unfulfilling relationship.”
“There is nothing foolish about wanting to wait for the right person rather than making something work for the sake of being in a relationship. Or worse, for the sake of a TV show,” she said.
-Lisa Claustro, BuddyTV Staff Columnist
Source: Huffington Post
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